If there is one thing that I love to do in my life, its revisit the times of my past. Be it the friends I had, the jobs I worked at – or the women I used to be in love with – looking back on a past chapter of my life is something that I have always enjoyed doing. This week, I had the opportunity to do that twice – when I spent some time with Lisa and Sandy.

Having been through everything and back with these two ladies, I was very interested to spend a little while with them and reflect on the time we spent together, talk about where we are now – and see what we have become since we were more then just friends.

Whenever a couple breaks up, the sadness and heartache that a breakup brings is usually quickly replaced by anger and resentment. As a result of that change in emotion, insults fly, fighting begins – and the two people that used to be in love with each other wind up never wanting anything to do with each other again. But after some time passes and the wounds of the breakup begin to heal – the two people that went from true love to pure hate begin thinking about each other again – and wondering how their former lover is doing. I bet that each and every one of us have someone in our lives who we used to love – and would give anything just to bump into them one more time – just to see how that former lover is doing.

There’s a song by Dan Fogelberg called Same Old Lang Syne that tells almost that exact story. The song is about a man who runs into his old lover in a grocery store. After realizing who they were, they, as the song states, “grabbed a six pack at the liquor store and drank it in her car.” As they sat there, being once again thrown into each other’s lives after time put them in different places, they talk about where they are now – and where they used to be. The song ends with the woman driving away and the man walking home.

The first time I ever heard that song, I immediately fell in love with it. Being a writer, I am constantly analyzing life and its many unique situations and circumstances – especially with regard to love. It always amazed me how two people can become the most important people in each other’s lives to the point where nothing else is more important then their love. These two lovers are in constant communication, think of each other all the time – and want nothing more then to be together. Then, for whatever reason – that love and companionship is no more – and two people that used to be a daily part of each other’s lives no longer even communicate. So when life gave me the opportunity to sit with two ladies from my past – I leapt at the chance.

There they were sitting at my bar – Lisa and Sandy. Two women that I spent four collective years of my life with. As we talked about where our lives have been since we were our lives were one, I was amazed that I was sitting and talking with them so cordially after all that we went through. When Lisa and I broke up, anger turned to hatred – and that hatred snowballed into a two-year battle that found us in court – yet here we were – talking like everything was fine. Sandy and I also had our share of fighting and arguing that almost cost us a friendship. So now that years have passed since our respective breakups – we were able to put all of the heartache and drama behind us – and just be friends.

As the conversation continued, we talked about the people we were with now and how our new relationships were going. I have to say that there wasn’t even any awkwardness on either of our parts as they talked about their new loves – and I talked about Christine. And when the time came to leave – again as the song said, “she gave a kiss to me as I got out, and I watched her drive away.”

When I was younger, I remember my sister having two friends named Richie and Chrissie. Once live-in lovers, they had broken up years before I met them. What amazed me about them as a child was the fact that although they broke up – they would always be at family gatherings together – and act like good friends. I guess my age made me somewhat naïve to even consider the possibility that two ex-lovers could be friendly and civil to each other. And as an adult – I still had a hard time believing that friendship was possible between two ex-lovers because of the difficult breakups I went through. But now – I have changed my mind and know that it is possible to be friends with an ex-lover – and truth be told – it feels pretty nice.