If there is one emotion that somehow always manages to find its way into almost every relationship, it’s jealousy. Jealousy can be as minor as a concern that your partner is friendly with a person of the opposite sex – or as serious as not allowing your partner to have any friends at all. But minor or not – jealousy has no place in any relationship.

I’ll confess, on occasion, I get “afraid” – which is what I call when I get jealous – when it comes to Sandy. The reason for this is because when I met her, I instantly fell in love with her because I saw what a wonderful person she is from that very first time we shook hands. My “concern” is that another guy will see the same thing that I saw. I know it sounds silly, but I can’t help it.

Sandy on the other hand, is not a jealous person by any means. Even when girls send me e-mails from the Booster Club telling me that they think I’m sexy, or when girls flirt with me at bars, she never gets jealous – unfortunately – I can’t say the same for me.

Don’t get me wrong, I trust Sandy implicitly. My fear comes not because of what Sandy does – but because of what I went through in the past. The past relationships I was in prior to Sandy were with girls who were not exactly honest – or faithful – so it’s not that I think Sandy would ever do that to me, but because of what I went through in my past, that underlying fear is always there.

Even for the dumbest reasons, I get “nervous” here and there. She could be playing backgammon online with someone thousands of miles away and I ask, “who’s that?” but when I get dozens of e-mails from girls calling me their “super sexy moderator” – she says nothing. Am I stupid or what?

I know that I have no reason to worry. Sandy has shown me more love and more reasons to trust her then anyone I have ever been with. But I look at it this way, I have never been this much in love in my entire life – and if I lost that love – I don’t know what I would do. So I guess in my own fractured intellect, it’s ok to get “worried” about such things – but I know that it’s not necessary – and not fair to Sandy.

Although I do get “frightened” once in a while, I never stop Sandy from being friends with anyone. Both she and I have been in relationships where we have been kept from our friends, so we would never do that to each other, because we have had it done to us and know how wrong it is to say to your partner, “I don’t want you to be friends with that person.” So while I may get “insecure” on occasion – that’s as far as it goes.

Jealousy, if not minor, can be a dangerous thing. The good thing is that when it comes to Sandy and me, minor is all it is.

And even that is unnecessary.