There is an old saying, “You have to screw up a couple of times before you get it right”. If that saying is true in any case – it’s certainly true in relationships.

It is fair to say that each and every one of us has had a relationship that has not worked out. If that is true, then each of us can now address that former boyfriend or girlfriend as an “ex”. Whenever a relationship ends, it is never a happy event. Both parties share an equal amount of anger and bitterness over the fact that the love they shared is no more. But while in most cases the couple that broke up no longer speaks to each other and eventually leads separate lives – there are some instances when the “ex” tries to make more of an impact on your life after the relationship comes to an end then when it was going on.

If you look at history, there are many cases where an “ex” has done everything from stalking, kidnapping – even murdering their former lovers because they have such deep rooted feelings of hate, jealousy or anger that they will stop at nothing until their former partner suffers as much pain as they feel they have suffered due to the breakup – despite the fact that their former partner has moved on and is now leading a very happy and productive life and wants nothing to do with the person that they were once with. As sad as that may sound – it happens a lot more then you think.

I know may people that are currently having “ex” problems. One person I know had to file a restraining order against her ex because he keeps coming by her house and threatening her and her new boyfriend. Another friend of mine got assaulted by his girlfriend’s “ex” – and I have to take my “ex” to court to get back property that belongs to me that she refuses to give back – unfortunately, and more often then not – everyone has to deal with a disgruntled “ex”.

So what are we supposed to do? Never get involved in a relationship? Be afraid to break up with someone we are unhappy with? Spend eternity single? Or realize the fact that ex’s who spend their lives trying to make the lives of their former partners a living hell – are really the ones with no lives at all.