This week, at least three couples I know have been having problems in their relationship. For whatever reason, their relationships have hit troubled waters and the couple’s futures seem questionable. While I feel sad for them and hope they can work out their differences, all this talk of trouble in paradise makes me realize how much I hated when my relationships would get this way – and how very lucky I am now.

All of us have been in a relationship and had a really big blowout with our partners. As happy and blissful as the relationship is when everything is fine is as horrific and hellacious as it is when everything hits the fan. No matter what the fight in a relationship is about and no matter who caused it – fighting can be the worst thing in the world.

The person you love and care for is now someone who you temporarily hate and want nothing to do with. The sweet kisses and romantic conversations turn into dirty looks and endless shouting matches. The desire to prove your love to them and show them how much you care is replaced with the desire to prove them wrong and show them how much they hurt you. Whether a relationship is five months or five years long – everybody fights.

The hardest thing about fighting is that, in most cases, both parties think they are right and the other is wrong. This does nothing but prolong the fight and create a stalemate because both parties will not even listen to the other’s side.

Eventually, everyone kisses and makes up – but with each new fight – a piece of the happiness that is there is chipped away until the fighting is all that is left.

Personally, the fights I have had in my last relationship were good enough for pay-per-view and if aired – would rival Wrestlemania. Sure there were some good times, but as the Jim Croce song goes – for every time that we spent laughing there were two times that I cried.

While I hated fighting and hate hearing that other people are fighting – I take solace in the fact that my life with Sandy is mostly fight free. Sure, we have had spats, but what couple doesn’t? The difference is that we love each other so much that we skip the senseless bickering and go right to the making up.

So to my friends that are fighting and to everyone in love, take it from me, fighting sucks, but the next time you fight with the one you love – remember the reasons why you love them in the first place – and then kiss and makeup.